Tuesday, May 7, 2013
Reality
Friday, April 5, 2013
Anecdote
I love my mom, and actually think this is one of the reasons I have always pushed myself to do well and get the next best thing. Here it is people, proof that behind every successful person(im tweaking it a bit) is a woman :)
Sunday, March 17, 2013
Impact
Female foeticide, trafficking, dowry deaths, it leaves me seething and wondering what does it really mean to be a woman in India. And the sad reality is that India is a whole different ball game for women than it is for men.
Is there a solution to it? the glaring answer is no. With the way the population is exploding, there is absolutely no way the situation is going to improve. The upper middle class and rich are comparatively in a better place than the others, however they better start taking precautions too, cause its no longer the vulnerable that these desperate bastards are after anymore, your status can no longer protect you , the mere fact that you are a woman makes you vulnerable.
The impact can be felt everywhere. The fact that I now look at almost every man walking in my vicinity as a potential rapist is something I don't like but is now ingrained in my mind. No longer will you see me with my ear-plugs plugged in walking away and enjoying myself, I find myself on full alert all the time. And it must be disturbing to the guys I glare at too. I'm sure I make it very obvous what I think of them and their kind just by looking at them spitefully. And Im not alone, most women have adopted this wary approach to them. I remember one of my friends from Bangalore asking me on his visit to Delhi, why do all the women always frown here? Well I think I have just found the answer. I would much rather glare a guy away than take the chance of having my life cut short.
The world's just become a much sadder place.
Sunday, March 10, 2013
I'm Back, once again :P
Well anyways. All my friends got married last month, more or less and thats what caused the long absence. That and the fact that I used to either go to work or come back and curl up in the blanket in my desperate attemot to get away from the cold. Anyways one good thing is I am now over the" oh my god everyone is getting married and im still single" crap thanks to the fact that even after my friends got married not much has really changed in my life and it still continues the way it was earlier. So that's one fear come and gone.
And the next new thing in my life is, Ive started watching One Tree Hill; yes I know its really really old but Ive not really watched it before so what difference does it make? :P I really like it. Its a nice gripping story so far.
And I'm really looking forward to getting out of Delhi and back to Mumbai. Please pray that this actually happens. I miss Mumbai. It was much safer than Delhi. I wish the December Rape had not happened. It has just made me more paranoid. im literally glaring at everyone on the road like he's a potebtial rapist and I'm sure the guys are feeling it too. I feel sorry about making them all feel like dirt but hey better safe than sorry. Im gonna look out for myself first. But its pretty off-putting for me too so praying really really hard I get back to Mumbai.
Saturday, December 29, 2012
What are you going to do about it?
I see rants to the government and security. But honestly are you sayign that a law passed by the government is going to put an end to this? In a society where women are not respected in their own houses, and where the male to female population is seriously skewed, this leaves me feeling very hopeless about the situation. However, if anyone is really looking for a solution, here goes
1) Equal treatment of the genders. This starts from curbing female foeticide. For heaven's sake, you killing a girl before she is even born is the same if not worse than girls being abused and left for dead and finally succumbing to their injuries. It preaches a mentality that women are not of any value. Why would your sons pay attention or respect to girls like they deserve then?
2) Equal opportunities to girls. You will send your sons to all the fancy schools and parties and outings. And they are allowed to stay out late and date girls etc. They are allowed to wear and act and do as they please. But not girls. And for heavens sake, our dressign doesnt provoke men. Its the animal instinct and the fact that they see a vulnerable and helpless prey in front of them that does. So stuff your preaching about dress decently up your ass. Give equal opportunities to women and it will increase the acceptance of girls in all aspects of society more and make them less of an enticement to the perverts that exist
3) Be a pro-active society. There has been an incident when walking on the streets of Mumbai, I yelled at a guy who tried to brush past my friend while we were walking on the road in the night, and the guy ran for his life cos the shopkeepers nearby came out. Delhi, and unfortunately now even mumbai to some extent is losing this pro-activeness. However if societies promise to protect its own that area becomes safe and this can spread as a mutually agreed upon solution if taken seriously.
So we don't need the government to put up a law to deter these incidents. We need good educated societies. And anger is fine but what's more important is where it is directed and what comes out of it. We are not looking for a quick fix here, finding and hanging the guilty is not enough, we need a permanent fix and that can only come through us. So I again ask you, what are you going to do about it?
Friday, December 28, 2012
Not sure what to name this
"You threaten to leave only those who you know can't do without you"
And its one of the most heartless selfish thing you can do. There's a weird sadistic pleasure one gets from seeing the person in front of you getting all emotional and look at you pleadingly. And its horrible. And I know this because this is exactly what I did. And then I felt super bad about it. Because I knew it wasnt my friends fault and she had other commitments. But I was mad. And I knew it was her fault to some extent for not having planned it better and for letting me down by not having enough time for me especially since i came back home after 3 months. And so i told her this is the last time Im going to see you for a very very long time so hope you enjoyed it and walked off. And then I felt very bad about it and realised that had she not put me in a position where I could tell her this and not worry about retaliation or to hell with you attitude I would never have said it. And hence the above quote about threatening to leave only those who cant do without you. Another one of my sad observations on behaviour I guess.
Friday, November 9, 2012
What's in a Name: Pat II
It was quite embarassing as a kid because I could not pronounce my own name till the 7th standard which is like I was 13. Led to a lot of loss of self esteem and 7th std was easily my worst year ever. But then I practised it and am now quite capable to say it out loud as long as I'm consciously thinking of what Im saying. The moment I am in a hurry or not focussing, it's all over the place again :P
Anyways, the only positive I see out of all this is that when foreigners mispronounce my name, im ablt to understand why and take it with a pinch of salt. So recently I had a call with some guys from Puerto Rico and since their native tongue is Spanish rather than English.( funnily foreigners who know english are better at saying my name, don't know why) . And this guy is being really nice to me and trying to ensure he gets my name right. So he started off with Xeeteeja, which is good for a first time person saying my name who is not in Indian culture, 10 mins down the line he went Xeeja, then Xena and finally by the end of the call I was named Katrina!!! :D
Anyways, it's all fun. I have several names due to the difficulty people have saying my original name. Kates, Nicky, Dexter, hello(strangely enough because I have a habit of greeting everyone with a friendly hello no matter how small an interval ago I just saw the person :P) a. So I say to myself, what's in a name?? :)
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Another Birthday gone well
So on 15th of Oct, I returned home thinking I would be cutting a cake with only Kiran, my roommate. I opened the main gate and was about to unlock my door when I heard a hopeful "Kshitija". Thinking Kiran had come, I went to check out who it was and imagine my surprise when I saw Shveta( one of my friends from IIFT) standing there. I spent the next 10 mins staring at her, giving her random hugs, asking her if she'd have water or something to eat and screaming "I can't believe you showed up" :) That in itself was an awesome start. Apparently Sayani had asked Kiran for my new address on FB( thank god for the internet) and passed on the information to Minal and Shveta. And here I was thinking nobody was gonna do anything cos no one asked me for my address.
And then Kiran came back but left cos something was mysteriously left with her fiancee in the car. So I tried to play dumb cos I knew it was more in my interest that way :P So I spent some time chit chatting with Shveta and Minal who could not contain her excitement and called at 11:30 itself :P. There were 2 cakes cut that night, one from Shveta and one from Kiran cos neither one knew the other was getting a cake :D so I got an amazing strawberry cake and my favourite chocolate truffle in one go. And then the barrage of phone calls started and ended only at 2 which is when I finally got to eat the cakes I had cut so happily :|
The next day, after making breakfast for Shveta, I left for the McD at sector 16 Noida, where Pallavi and Bhansali had called me for breakfast. And of course there was one more cake there :D This was followed by a quick visit to my old office because my cabbie would not come pick me up from 16 and take me to office.
Once I got to my own office I found my cubicle covered in balloons and streamers and a perfect bouquet of pink roses :D They then proceeded to shower me with a birthday card with personalised messages, the deos I use :P lots of chocs and another cake at lunch time... This was all interspersed with wishes from a lot of people I have never otherwise had a chance to speak to :) So it was awesome.
Not to mention the fact that my phone did not stop ringing since 5 in the evening the previous day to 11 last night and the various BBMs, Watsapp msgs and smses pouring in. Also the personalised presentation :P from darshika and the cards and the countdown she did for me on Monday evening. :) I loved every moment and was overwhelmed with all the affection pouring out from all directions.. Thanks to everyone who made my day so awesome in case you read this... I love you all.
Friday, October 12, 2012
Speaking of Birthdays,
Birthday 1: Baked Alaska. And it was special only because of the baked alaska. It was my 18th Birthday and mom made this awesome cake. For those unaware of baked alaska, it is a cake, topped with ice-cream and it's coated with something and doused with Rum and set on fire when brought into the room. The entire effect is rather stunning. Not to mention it has a little bit of all your favourite things. I remember Mom being a lil pissed at the fact that none of us would get of our asses and come to the dining table together and hence it was getting difficult to time the lighting of the cake but we got our acts together eventually and I loved every moment of that cake.
Birthday 2: Second year at IIFT Kolkata. My birthday was bang in the middle of Durga pooja, one of the biggest and craziest festivals you will ever withness in the eastern parts of India. Its a carnival if you must try and explain it in English. Everyone is on the streets going from one pandal to another( stalls where images and idols of the goddess Durga are put up and massive prayer's organised. however, most people who are tourists like us students in Kolkata for eg visit it for the ambience, food and the adrenaline rush) So on the 15th, I was taking a nice walk in the streets of Salt Lake with one of my friends from the junior batch and I get a call from the hostel. I was expecting a call saying get your ass back here, we are going crazy organising this thing, however they wanted to go pandal hoping instead. i was like sure lets give this a try to, after all I'm in all probability never going to go back to Kolkata again esp during this season. So we set off and it was crazy. It was like the whole city was awake and out. Massive queues with loads of cops keeping an eye on the proceedings. We went ahead and braved the crowds till 4 in the morning when we finally decided to call it a day and return to our hostels. and of course we cut the mandatory 12 o'clock cake at one of the Pandals. It was absolute fun. The next day I had another party on the terrace attached to my hostel room which was awesome and then I went ahead to drop my friend off at the station.
Birthday 3: My first year at HCL or as I like to call it the year I cut 4 cakes. :P First off at Route 04 in CP with Shveta, Rohatgi and Arun after which I went for a night out at Indirapuram with Smitha's place which was followed by a visit to Kingdom of dreams the next day, another cake cutting at my PG and finally one at the office.
But more than worrying about the lack of plans for this year I think what's got me more freaked out is the fact that I find myself evaluating my life critically now and I am not sure where Im going. Anyways let's hope I figure things out soon. Till then I might as well enjoy myself starting off with my birthday :)
Sunday, October 7, 2012
Not the Dentist again.
Friday, September 28, 2012
Homeward bound
Original lines
"It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife. However little known the feelings or views of such a man may be on his first entering a neighbourhood, this truth is so well fixed in the minds of the surrounding families, that he is considered as the rightful property of some one or other of their daughters."
Now my version in my context:
"It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single girl in possession of a certain age must be in want of a husband.However little known the feelings or views of such a woman may be on her taking leave to innocently go visit her family, this truth is so well fixed in the minds of the all the people in her workplace, that she is considered as the rightful property of some one or other of her native place's young eligible bachelors."
So as you must have guessed from the title, I am leaving for home within the next 5 hrs actually. And this is the supposition in everyone's mind. Some are brave enough to speak it out, some try to hide it but it shows anyways, some managed to hide it and some people are sensible :P
So I was supposed to go on an all girl's trip to Daman, a place close to Mumbai and for which I would have had to fly via Mumbai. Three of the 6 girls in my IIFT group are getting married and we wanted to go out one last tym as an all girls group with no guys attached and have a nice time. Unfortunately th every next day after I managed to get the leave required and book my tickets, one of the brides-to-be( no need to hold your breath, I'm not one of them) met with an accident, tore her ligament and was rendered not entirely useless but unable to move for 3 weeks. So since my mom misses me and keeps asking me to come home and meet her i decided let me go spend time with her instead.
However, this innocent little thing has turned into such a headache for me because my single status is universally known too. And so the assumptions are Im going home to see guys( I hate arranged marriages people, give me a break.. its the yuckiest thing you could ask me to do). And this is just unfair. A girl can want to just spend some time after completing her education, with herself. Why must she immediately tie herself to domestic monotony with some guy she has never known? I have interests and hopes and dreams( I sound like an educate the girl child commercial now :P) of my own. And im not saying no to marriage but im just thinking let it happen when it has to.. Why are you, the society pushing me into it when my parents are willing to listen to me and not pressurising me into one?
Anyways, to whosoever it interests (though i dont for the life of me see why?) Im not getting married, Im not looking for guys, Im happy as I am and when I want to get married or look for boys, I will make it just as obvious as I have made the fact that I don't want to think about them now, so lets give it a break till then. :)
Monday, January 10, 2011
My first real winter. :)
Been in Delhi for a month in November and December and back again in Jan. Probably gonna be here for a good month. Having never been north of Mumbai in anything but the winter months, it was bound to be a tough winter for me. But its been fun as such. Its a new experience and a challenge if you must see it that way, cos I had only one thin sweater when i reached this place. Needless to say the warm clothes wardrobe has expanded to three new sweaters, a really thick jacket, woollen socks, gloves, 4 scarfs and 2 new pairs of jeans. I think I love winter. It has given me the chance to diversify the wardrobe. :P
Its been interesting though. Being in a temperature below 5degrees for the first time in my life, has taught me to appreciate hot chocolate and coffee with friends even more than before :P but seriously learnt a lot of new things, some of them being what a heater looks like and how it works, the need to keep your head covered at all times in order to not lose body heat this way, watching the water vapour in your breath condense, being back in the hostel or safe areas before it gets really dark. It also introduced me to the concept of thermals, this is something i don’t think im ever going to stop praising, cos they really are life savers. I have blessed the person who came up with the concept of thermals a thousand times already. And I have another three weeks to go here. Don’t know where I will be going next, but this winter has removed the fear of coping in cold cities from my mind completely. I was literally petrified with the prospect of spending a winter in Delhi but it has smoothed a lot of my worries and made me realise that I can manage it. And I am glad for the first real winter of my life.
Sunday, December 27, 2009
I'm Back!!!!
I Have actually taken to heart the fact that I have been depriving you poor souls of my witty commentary on life... so I have suddenly posted 3 entries in the last 1 hour... Well one of them had been written earlier but posted on another blog i maintain... So anyways... since i have been here, I have had my mom's pani puri which is the best in the world... watched three idiots in ghatkopatr....gone to bandra... love bandra.. had dinner there... fallen sick and had stomach cramos and diarrhoea after the dinner there... gone to watch avatar the next day to south mumbai... not liked it so much... 3-d effect was the only allure of the movie.... hated the story line.... come out gone to gol masjid... had biryani at jaffer Bhai's delhi darbar...Spent the sunday at home... slet mostly... hAd my atya's(Bua's) brilliat mutton liver and curry... and watched ajab prem ki ghajab kahaani which was hilarious only on account of its stupidity....
Nect on the list is a visit to my previous office... meeting my friends and mentor there... going to colba.. a visit to prithvi cafe.... juhu beach... shopping at AND... a new years partyu smwhr .... rocket singh..... bombay blues.... crawford market..
man i have got a lot to do.... chalo cu and tc...
Saturday, September 26, 2009
First trimester Ends
Friday, September 18, 2009
Height!!!
Monday, July 27, 2009
untitled
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
My first post from IIFT Kolkatta
I dont know who i say that to every time i make an entry but watever... pardon the sms style writing... but everythign goes these days.... plus its my blog.... so who cares.... so i am at the indian institute of foreign trade(IIFT) Kolkatta.... The full form was for some of my ignorant friends who wud not have understood what iift was otherwise.... ab pata chala????? DUBAARA MAT POOCHNA.... :P
Well i am in the city of joy... but so far apart from the first ever cycle rickshaw ride in my life this city has seemed pretty normal.... kucch toh karna padega.... and if ur wondering even by the minutest chance that how did I decide to blog today... its because im supposed to be studying for my maketing lecture for tomorrow ... and im as usual procrastinating as much as possible....
So i think i will list down the pros and cons of my decision to join IIFT apart from the normal reasons... u see normal reasons toh sabke jaise hain waise mere bhi hain... want to get an mba, start up my own venture... etc etc....all very muc the real reasons par apart from that here are some more reasons which are like at the bottom of the list somewhere and if u tell me u never thought abt this at least in passing i'l say "don't lie men" total goan christian style... love them .. given a chance id buy a hut on a beach in goa, go fishing everyday for food and just basically enjoy life ....:P...
1) i no longer have to work for another 2 years at least and i definitely do not have to code again.... thank god!!!! :P
2) I get to go away from home for the first time and see what it takes to live on your own....
3) Mummy finally realises how much she misses me when im not around... :P
4) Kaustubh(my brother) gets a chance to play the only child for a while and see what i went through when he was at iit delhi for the last four years.... enjoy dude.....
5) The people in my previous organisation(though u probably knw where i worked if uve been reading my blog carefully...) realise that they miss me too... yay!!!! thts wat i love the most....
cons....
well theres no food here thts abt it.... and ohh ya im always sleepy which i shudnt be considering that this is the make or break period of my life... if anyone has any suggestions on how to stay up please feel free to leave them in the comments to this blog....
well thats it...
have fun
tc...
lots and lots and lots and lots of love,
(see how happy youve made me by just reading the blog ... now be a good kid and leave comments)
Kshitija...
:)
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
My life at this point....
1) my grammar's gone to the dogs.... i have actually written here's some random thoughts rather than here are some random thoughts....
2) I am in office and its 12:20.... what am i doing? i came in looked into a few things... figured them out... over with them... now i feel drained already with the amount of things being thrown at me.... i think my inbox is heavier than the outbox... not good... i want to run away from it all... can i?
3) why am i here? my mba entrance exam in a weeks time.... i cud not solve time speed distance problems yesterday... im gonna flunk miserably... god... help...... i need a miracle now... an act of god....
4) why do i feel sleepy at 11:30 every afternon? i should not.... this is not good.... all my exams are scheduled arnd that tym... i will flunk them all
5) oh god the functional analyst in my team is cmng in my direction... why god why..... why do we have to test the bloody thing for errors???? i hate my life....what am i doing
6) I wish i could run away from all of this... i want a break with just one thing to worry about instead of so many.....
